The last line: "He doesn't scream as much," he told me. "He just does what he wants and then lies about it." Struck me. That was my stalker. She was never loud or overtly violent (at least not at that age) ad her aggression was always directed either at one of her siblings or one of her carefully picked victims, chosen for their perceived lack of trustworthiness by everybody around. She later would become more overtly violent as she got bolder, and that was what led to her getting some kind of psychiatric care at 19. There wasn't a lot of impulsiveness, in other words, just a lot of calculation. This makes me wonder (and I hope I'm wrong) if nurturing behavior on the part of the family does more to teach the child to mimic normal behavior when they have to or disguise their psychopathy than really help them, because my stalker's mother was very nurturing to her, and her father treated her as his shining light, and she was very good at hiding what she was in public.
Do these people live in a world where Azula's behavior is somehow okay, or Ursa's speaking firmly (not angrily, not violently or disparagingly, but firmly) against such outrageous behavior is somehow abusive and not part of being a responsible parent?
The latter I think. The idea that a good mother should always think their child is the best, and perfect, and there's nothing wrong with them, and that's real love is strong in some people. The fact that my mother (and father) did not go into denial about my extremely bizarre childhood behavior is what got my seizures and immune disorder diagnosed, and is the reason I'm alive. My stalker's denial about her daughter's behavior led to her daughter having free reign to torture her mother's other children and a string of unrelated victims. Somehow I can't see a mother thinking something is wrong with her child's behavior as a lack of love or a sign of abuse, but a lot of people do.
That's a real shame. I understand what it's like to lose steam on a story, but it's a shame.
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Date: 2012-09-04 04:52 pm (UTC)Do these people live in a world where Azula's behavior is somehow okay, or Ursa's speaking firmly (not angrily, not violently or disparagingly, but firmly) against such outrageous behavior is somehow abusive and not part of being a responsible parent?
The latter I think. The idea that a good mother should always think their child is the best, and perfect, and there's nothing wrong with them, and that's real love is strong in some people. The fact that my mother (and father) did not go into denial about my extremely bizarre childhood behavior is what got my seizures and immune disorder diagnosed, and is the reason I'm alive. My stalker's denial about her daughter's behavior led to her daughter having free reign to torture her mother's other children and a string of unrelated victims. Somehow I can't see a mother thinking something is wrong with her child's behavior as a lack of love or a sign of abuse, but a lot of people do.
That's a real shame. I understand what it's like to lose steam on a story, but it's a shame.