Somehow I can't see a mother thinking something is wrong with her child's behavior as a lack of love or a sign of abuse, but a lot of people do.
Ugh that seems like a particularly narcissistic view, as though being told everything is fine is more important than fixing problems. By that logic Ozai was a better mother than Ursa for thinking Azula could do no wrong, an attitude that gave her no opportunity to correct herself and created victims like Zuko and Ty Lee. (You're right, the parallels to your stalker are chilling.)
But then again dads are supposed to be the disciplinarians so how dare Ursa try to discipline her own child, including trying to get her daughter away from a self-destructive course? Narcissism + Sexism = major FAIL.
There seems to be a feeling that someone, such as Ursa or Iroh, should have fixed her.
So according to these fans it was the responsibility of everyone in the world except Azula. How nice to know we don't have to take responsibility for our own lives--classic narcissist thinking.
I've even seen a fanfic where Aang said Mai and Ty Lee had betrayed Azula on Boiling Rock and that the betrayal shattered her. Um, hello? There are more important things in the world than Azula's tender feelings, like PEOPLE'S LIVES. If her psychological well-being depended on her minions being complicit in murder, the issue is hers and not her minions'.
I don't think Azula's apologists are all narcissists, but the apologist arguments they make sure sound that way. Likely because that's the only frame that would allow nothing to be her fault.
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Date: 2012-09-05 05:19 am (UTC)Ugh that seems like a particularly narcissistic view, as though being told everything is fine is more important than fixing problems. By that logic Ozai was a better mother than Ursa for thinking Azula could do no wrong, an attitude that gave her no opportunity to correct herself and created victims like Zuko and Ty Lee. (You're right, the parallels to your stalker are chilling.)
But then again dads are supposed to be the disciplinarians so how dare Ursa try to discipline her own child, including trying to get her daughter away from a self-destructive course? Narcissism + Sexism = major FAIL.
There seems to be a feeling that someone, such as Ursa or Iroh, should have fixed her.
So according to these fans it was the responsibility of everyone in the world except Azula. How nice to know we don't have to take responsibility for our own lives--classic narcissist thinking.
I've even seen a fanfic where Aang said Mai and Ty Lee had betrayed Azula on Boiling Rock and that the betrayal shattered her. Um, hello? There are more important things in the world than Azula's tender feelings, like PEOPLE'S LIVES. If her psychological well-being depended on her minions being complicit in murder, the issue is hers and not her minions'.
I don't think Azula's apologists are all narcissists, but the apologist arguments they make sure sound that way. Likely because that's the only frame that would allow nothing to be her fault.