attackfish

And it goes the other way too. "He's awful because of his family. Don't punish him, feel sorry for him!" I'm sorry. If he's awful, and his family taught him how to be awful, there's blame enough for all. I agree that many innocent families are also blamed unfairly. I think it's one more aplication of the "just world" fallacy. "I'm good, my family is good, therefor, non of my children will ever end up like that." The favorite thought process of victim-blamers and bigots everywhere.

(by the way, your family affects you, it has an effect. Weird English language crap FTW)

I'm sorry. I never cut, but I almost became an agoraphobe, and had myself convinced of my general worthlessness for several years. I spent a lot of time with my mom or dad sleeping in bed with me so that they could be sure I wouldn't get up in the middle of the night to kill myself. It's a horrible feeling, and I hope you're in a better place mentally now.

I'm not the most socially aware person either, and at the time, I was dealing with really severe cognitive issues, but being grabbed and held down by a gang of kids while they shoved sand in my mouth and tried to choke me made me realize really quickly what was happening.