###"I'm good, my family is good, therefor, non of my children will ever end up like that." The favorite thought process of victim-blamers and bigots everywhere.###
Indeed. In Mexico class matters a lot and there's lines people don't cross, it's just not done, but when someone does cross that line all hell breaks loose.
I so wish people would stop blaming their actions on others things and people and just accept responsibility for their actions. But of course not, because poor them, they had bad childhoods or parents that didn't love them or they were high/drunk . . . nope, sorry, no excuse!
Yeah, accept and except, I always get those two confused, thanks for the heads up!
People didn't mess with me physically, since that's not the sort of thing that is acceptable in Mexico. If someone's being a bully, in public school at least, they freeze them out until they either break down or apologize. In private that's a completely different environment, but I never saw anyone mess with someone physically and certainly not me. Everything else was fair game.
I wasn't as bad as that, but I felt like I didn't deserve anything, and my family thought that if they were hard on me, I would get mad and be all like, you know what, I'm going to stop with the pity party and be better at everything just to show them. Yeah, that didn't work out so well.
I am mentally much better. I probably wouldn't recognize myself from then, I'm very different. I don't let people walk all over me anymore and I've learned to like myself and not freak out every time I make a mistake or social or otherwise. I used to go over it in my head constantly until I convinced myself what a worthless person I was, but now, I'm like, okay, I made a mistake, learn from it and move on.
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Date: 2013-07-15 07:29 pm (UTC)Indeed. In Mexico class matters a lot and there's lines people don't cross, it's just not done, but when someone does cross that line all hell breaks loose.
I so wish people would stop blaming their actions on others things and people and just accept responsibility for their actions. But of course not, because poor them, they had bad childhoods or parents that didn't love them or they were high/drunk . . . nope, sorry, no excuse!
Yeah, accept and except, I always get those two confused, thanks for the heads up!
People didn't mess with me physically, since that's not the sort of thing that is acceptable in Mexico. If someone's being a bully, in public school at least, they freeze them out until they either break down or apologize. In private that's a completely different environment, but I never saw anyone mess with someone physically and certainly not me. Everything else was fair game.
I wasn't as bad as that, but I felt like I didn't deserve anything, and my family thought that if they were hard on me, I would get mad and be all like, you know what, I'm going to stop with the pity party and be better at everything just to show them. Yeah, that didn't work out so well.
I am mentally much better. I probably wouldn't recognize myself from then, I'm very different. I don't let people walk all over me anymore and I've learned to like myself and not freak out every time I make a mistake or social or otherwise. I used to go over it in my head constantly until I convinced myself what a worthless person I was, but now, I'm like, okay, I made a mistake, learn from it and move on.