Exactly, they're trying, they're really trying to be empathetic, which is why when instead of giving them a pat on the back, I point out that what they said is actually really horrible, even when I'm really nice about it, they get angry with me, because they're trying to be good people.
I have noticed lately that when someone says something like this to me, I get a particular smile on my face, that means "You just said something unspeakable to me, and you have no idea, and I would tell you, but you would get mad, and nice Jewish/disabled/queer/female kids grow up learning never to make Gentiles/non-disabled people/straight people/men mad."
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Date: 2013-12-24 04:31 pm (UTC)I have noticed lately that when someone says something like this to me, I get a particular smile on my face, that means "You just said something unspeakable to me, and you have no idea, and I would tell you, but you would get mad, and nice Jewish/disabled/queer/female kids grow up learning never to make Gentiles/non-disabled people/straight people/men mad."