The cat thing at least backfired spectacularly, since it was what made him realize h didn't have conflict with his parents, he had abusive parents and he needed to get out. So, while I'm sad for his cat, it got him away from some very twisted people.
I'm trying for the happy life thing, and I get my revenge by becoming a teacher, and being a good teacher ho isn't anything like my horrible teachers (but trying to be like my good ones) and just generally having a life that isn't about and would horrify my abusers. And also, combating abuse IRL when I see it and supporting victims. In fandom, like you, I write about abusers, and like you I get complements for portraying them as real people with understandable needs, wants, and fears, while also showing how really awful what they're doing is.
I would actually guess you have three kinds of abuse apologists: abusers, of which there are plenty, victims, who have internalized abusive rhetoric to survive, of which I have known a few, and who I feel for, since these ideas will make getting out much harder, and lastly just people who have internalized a shit-ton of crap from the abuse-supporting culture present in most of the world, who might not be abusers themselves, but probably in real life don't listen and support abuse victims, question their stories, and engage in silencing tactics, etc. to maintain the "peace".
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Date: 2015-04-14 12:32 pm (UTC)I'm trying for the happy life thing, and I get my revenge by becoming a teacher, and being a good teacher ho isn't anything like my horrible teachers (but trying to be like my good ones) and just generally having a life that isn't about and would horrify my abusers. And also, combating abuse IRL when I see it and supporting victims. In fandom, like you, I write about abusers, and like you I get complements for portraying them as real people with understandable needs, wants, and fears, while also showing how really awful what they're doing is.
I would actually guess you have three kinds of abuse apologists: abusers, of which there are plenty, victims, who have internalized abusive rhetoric to survive, of which I have known a few, and who I feel for, since these ideas will make getting out much harder, and lastly just people who have internalized a shit-ton of crap from the abuse-supporting culture present in most of the world, who might not be abusers themselves, but probably in real life don't listen and support abuse victims, question their stories, and engage in silencing tactics, etc. to maintain the "peace".