attackfish

This. In old folk tales with othered women, men were given the lesson that they should either try to destroy the other or change it. Danger in a woman was a sign that she must either lose her power, or die (and power, of course meant danger) or in some stories, that she would leave and break her human's heart. Women are encouraged to embrace the other and make themselves more like it instead. Since the other in Paranormal Romance is dangerous (just like men can be in real life, there's a reason Edward is frequently called an abusive stalker) this danger is what we women are told to embrace. Meanwhile, if something happens to us, it's our fault.