attackfish

Exactly. It works some of the time, to some extent, in certain situations. For example, no one started bullying me in third grade (worst year by far) because I was physically vulnerable, or even primarily because I was socially vulnerable. They ignored me because they were afraid of me, and then when my seizures stopped, they bullied me to prove to themselves and each other that they weren't afraid of me anymore. Ignoring them did nothing, and standing up to them only made them more determined to prove they weren't afraid of me. If a kid is being bullied because of some perceived transgression, being queer for example, or being labeled the school slut, ignoring and standing up won't work, because the bullies think they're punishing the victim. If a kid is being bullied by one or a small group of very determined bullies, ignoring or standing up to the bullies might work, or it might make them double down. Ignoring and/or standing up to the bullies, in the very best case, means that the bullies will switch targets. This doesn't solve the problem at all, since it just means there's another kid suffering.